Moving, But Not Moving On

Over the last year or so, my sister wanted to move out. She wanted to move to LA to become something. I felt that I had to put my feelings aside to make this transition easier for the both of us, but that is exactly what you should not do. Voicing your opinion can be dangerous in some situations but when it comes to family or close friends, you should learn to be comfortable with being honest with them. Sometimes this takes practice and I know for me it was hard at first because I did not want to hurt anyone's feelings but you always need to take your feelings into consideration as well.

I approached the way I felt about her moving, which was sad in a way that she would not feel guilty, because after all, I needed to show her that I had respect for her. I told her how I would still like to stay in contact, and still be as close as possible. She felt the same way and that was so reassuring. We were both glad we had the talk we did. It is very important to remember to talk your feelings out, or you can't expect someone to understand how you are feeling. We made the best of our time together, and talk as much as we can. I still think about her all of the time but now it is happy thoughts.

The same goes with a boyfriend/girlfriend or a close friends, sometimes space can bring you closer together. You have to be able to build up a strong enough relationship where distance will not completely wreck whatever kind of relationship you may be in; friends, family, or whoever. Understand this is only the end if you make it, you can come back better and stronger in the end.

At this point, if they are already moving the best thing you can do is be supportive and make as many memories as possible, cherish every second. Memories are important to help with coping. Try taking lots of photos, videos, and even voice recordings, and making a scrap book would be lots of fun. You will be less sad if you have something to hold you over until the next time you see each other. Remember to not have negative feelings about them leaving or this will prevent you from making the memories and sharing happy times because your negativity will get in the way.

You have to remember that whatever you are feeling; sad, angry, or confused, chances are they are feeling the same feelings too. You need to give yourself time to adjust because no one can just be okay with somethings sad right when it happens. It's also okay to not talk to them everyday since you both may have different schedules now. It may also be a good idea for you to get a new hobby or anything that will make you more busy and think about you missing them less.

At some point in life, you will move and you will leave people you love and people will leave you too, some things are just not permeant and that's okay. Try not to dwell on the past and move on to meet new people and still have your old relationships too if possible. I hope you were able to find some peace in mind, knowing you are not alone in things like this. I have been through this and so have so many people around you, reach out to those people

and use this experience as a way to connect and form new relationships.